Are You Chasing Mr. Wonderful Away?
By Gina • Jun 26th, 2012
True love and real men should seek you and not the other way around. ~ Moi
Ladies, this quote sums up everything that I studied so hard to learn after my own failures in romance and through studying to become a Dating Consultant.
Once upon a time, I was living a frustrated and exhausted existence from being in constant pursuit of men that would have my interest at the time. And it seemed like the more I cried and fought to hold on to his attention, the less he gave. And the more I focused on their needs and wants, the less I focused on my own.
But thank God, I have since learned different!
I want you to also think about the men that you adored in the past or perhaps, you’re dealing with a guy now that just doesn’t seem to be as interested in you as you are in him. Did you get so caught up in him that you forgot about you? Did you become this overly aggressive weirdo?
Not so pretty huh? Ugh. I know!
It’s not that we’re gluttons for punishment or emotionally masochistic (well you might be). It’s simply following our hearts. And that’s not a bad thing. We’re women, it’s who we are. But in the early days of meeting that special someone, we have to take a different approach.
You’ve been reading my blog for quite some time now and you know how I now feel about going females switching roles and going after the guy.
Rich Santos, (writer for Marie Claire) validates the thoughts that most men have on the subject as well.
“Guys love the hunt. So, we are just fulfilling our destiny when we chase girls, even if we don’t end up winning them over. The chase is fun and feels natural. We don’t respond as well when we are being chased; we kind of don’t know what to do.”
Hunting a man down as if he is the last guy on Earth will turn him off and send him fleeing in the opposite direction. Why? As Rich stated. You just took on their role and it leaves them with not knowing what to do. In fact, there’s nothing left for them so they take flight.
Men need to pursue you.
And Dream Girls, we should let them!
And now you know.
