Are You Making The Number 1 Relationship Mistake??
By Gina • Jul 17th, 2012
So, you have finally met your remarkable Mr. Wonderful. He wakes you up with a kiss and sends you to sleep in passionate bliss. No more thinking and dreaming about this ghost. He has officially arrived and he’s all yours! This new found love has you on such a euphoric drug that you can barely remember the last time you felt this good and then bam, omg, trouble!
There are many reasons why relationships come to ruin but in my time as a Dating/Relationship Consultant, I have to say there are critical mistakes that I see women committing after falling in love. But the worst offender in my book is:
1. Losing Yourself
A client of mine attended a support group every Monday night. She has been an amputee for over ten years and had come to terms with it but still went to encourage others. During one of our sessions, she told me that she heard from one of the guys in the support group and she was wondering why he texted her when he knew that she had a boyfriend. I asked her “What did he say?” And she reads back to me “Miss seeing you around group, everyone says hello.” So that peaked my curiosity. I then asked “Had she been sick or something?” And she goes, “No, it’s Monday night football so I haven’t been able to make it to group the last month or so.”
My client was dating her guy about 5 months and was in love with a good guy but I told her that she has to continue to lead an exciting life. Football is on Sundays as well.
When we first start dating the special someone, we are beautiful, smart, and busy single ladies lovin’ life and taking care of business. But once we fall in love, some of us dismiss the woman we once were in order to become one with him. And in the midst of your merger, you no longer care about girl’s night out or anything else that does not include him.
And I am here to tell you, ladies. That is a massive mistake.
Your guy fell in love with the woman that he met. Continue to keep a life in spite of your relationship. Meet your friends for one night a week. It doesn’t have to be a wild night at the bar but why not a drink or two while watching “Single Ladies”. Or plan spa days with your sister every third Saturday of the month. You could also join a book club. The “Fifty Shades of Grey” trilogy will lead to exciting pillow talk! Do something so that he is reminded often that he is lucky to have your attention.
Otherwise, he will start to take you for granted and become bored and lose interest in you. You need to keep your own life.
One more thing, do not fall for it. He will want to spend as much time with you as possible, he’s high, remember? But don’t fall for it. They are interested in the lady with interests.