How to Survive Heartache and Heartbreak


By Gina • Jun 12th, 2012

“The quickest way to get over a man is to get under a new one”

 

I don’t know whose quote that is but I love it!

At first glance, it seems a bit ho-ish, funny, and vulgar so those words must’ve trickled from a man’s lips in hopes of bedding all of the heartbroken ladies in his vicinity.

But take off your girl hat (a cute lil black beret, hopefully) ladies and put on a baseball cap for a second and look at that piece of wisdom very deeply. There is some truth to it.

The best way to stop thinking, mourning, obsessing, lamenting, and/or crying over the ex is to get occupied by another.

You know the one that you sigh, roll your eyes, and fwd to voicemail when he calls. Or that boring email from what’s his name that’s been sitting in your inbox for a week, yes him. Now is the time to reply and accept the date.

It’ll keep those fingers busy from spying on the not so good guy on Facebook or Twitter and better yet, you’ll be spending time with someone that is actually interested in you and took time from his life to pursue you.

I’m not saying that you should go bump and grind with this new guy by night fall. Only fools  rush in. But I do believe with everything in my heart, that time spent on wanting a man that doesn’t want you is time wasted.

Many self help gurus say that you need to take this time to grieve and get to know yourself. I do not disagree and you will have moments for that kind of recovery but to avoid men and dwell in constant sadness while he’s already setting up the new girl for failure would be a mistake on your part. 

If you must cry, do it in the shower. Wipe those tears, get out, and apply make up and move on to the next guy.

I remember a past love of mine that I could not break free from. I knew that he cheated on me several times. My heart was broken each time but it didn’t stop me from returning to his bed of lies.

I thought that he was my Dream Guy and that he truly loved me emotionally but he had a battle with himself when it came to his sexual appetite. I could not see myself being without him in my life. I didn’t like him when he was there but hated having him gone. It was a warped way of being in a relationship but apparently, it was enough for me.

Until I met a guy that pursued me like no other. I knew that he was into me but of course, I looked beyond him and continued seeing “my love”.

And then… I was sitting at home arguing on the phone with the loser one day and a call came in on the other line. I wanted to be spiteful so I just hung up on him without even looking at my caller ID and said “Hello” with an evil smile. The tone on the other line was a bit soothing in comparison to what I had just disconnected with.   

It was my hunter asking me out. Still feeling vengeful, I accepted. After our first date, I never looked back.

We’ve since broken up but I can honestly say, he was my first REAL love.

So date others as soon as possible, ladies and then you won’t have time to think about the man that didn’t really want or deserve you.

And now you know.

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