Is Your Wine Glass Half Full?
By Gina • Jul 10th, 2012
There are some of us ladies with disabilities that take one look in the mirror and think that we don’t measure up or that we are somehow less than able bodied women. You know thoughts such as, “I’m not very attractive especially having to pull myself around in these crutches every day.”
Or one might say horrible things like this in regards to romantic relationships “I could never hear his voice or speak clearly to him so why would he want a deaf woman that he could never have a “normal” dialogue with?”
Geez, with introspection like this, who needs enemies??
I’m addressing these types of thought patterns because they are real. And WE all have them, fully functioning are not. But we as disabled women have more to contend with physically so these nasty self comments may creep in a lot more than your average “I feel fat today” judgments made by most females.
I often tell my clients that I’m very utopian by nature. Yes, this Dream Girl dreams big for me and my kind. I see all of us beautiful ladies with disabilities living with no shame in loving and happy relationships. I envision us expressing ourselves and desires in any way that we want to while ignoring the fear of judgment! So yes, call me an optimist but I am also a realist.
And the reality is, we are disabled. I use a wheelchair to go from point A to point B. I can use my arms but I am paralyzed from the chest down with limited use of my hands. And despite my physical challenges, I am determined to be as independent as possible but the fact remains, I have a disability.
And the same goes for you too. Insert disability here…..
We are impaired in some way but does that render finding love and appreciating who are impossible?
If it were the days in biblical times, I’d say yes because anything born with even a blemish was annihilated by night fall.
That’s not very funny but it kind of is. Because we are not in those days of being hunted down and taken out simply because we have a disability but a lot of us are still committing this act against ourselves.
Again, you have a disability.
Is there more?
I told you a bit about my physical traits but I’d like to think that I have additional qualities. If I stopped at my disability then my wine glass would have just a drop of the delicious grape nectar in it and well, who’s getting tipsy from that?
I’m being comical today but my point is that you have to recognize all of your attributes and the guys will too.
You are here in this world today. Move beyond those beliefs that having a disability should somehow negate you from having the love and life that you aspire to have!
Look into the mirror once more and realize all that you are and know that you may not have all of what you thirst for today but you are on the road to receiving it.
And now you know.