Look Both Ways!

By Gina • Apr 24th, 2012

Dream Girls,

Every now and then I like to post my tweets that I think would be of interest to you:  

“Most of us look both ways when crossing the street. Should we not just jump in front of any guy as well??”

Take a moment and think about that, ladies.

Most of us were taught to be very cautious early in life. “Don’t talk to strangers”, “Do not put anything metal in the microwave”, and “When crossing the street, look both ways”.

We are raised to beware and quite a few of us continue to live by those childhood codes of conduct throughout our adult adventures but when it comes to romance, some of us are throwing caution to the wind.

I recently had a client sign up for my services once she discovered that her boyfriend was no longer being “romantic”.

Well, she moved in with him after 6 months of dating. She told me that everything was absolutely “delightful” for a couple of months but then he changed.

He no longer complimented her, frequently interrupted her, always expected her to initiate sex, and never lifts a finger around the house. 

I told her that her “Dream Guy had morphed into a nightmare” and she only had herself to blame.

Those of you that have been reading my blog or are clients of mine have already detected where she went wrong but if you’re just tuning in then brace yourself, ladies.

My client took the easy road to “commitment”. Yes, he asked her to move in and he was the one that flipped the script and turned into a rude frat boy but it was her actions that led him to think that he could begin to treat her in such a manner.

First, we are grown women and moving in with your man before he proposes and sets the wedding date makes you a roommate. Nothing more than a member of his two person fraternity. He came to see my client as his buddy with breasts and so he treated her as such.

Second, She lost her mysterious identity by shacking up with him. He now knew how her schedule, habits, and every single idiosyncrasy. He had the close up that he needed and had no serious reason to pursue her any longer.

Third, She did not play hard to get and became an easy target. What fun is that??  As soon as he asked her to move in, she packed up and fled her cozy home with no thought of how she was singlehandedly turning her “delightful” romance into a disastrous fling.

And lastly, Her lazy oaf expected her to be the one to ask for sex. Don’t get me wrong, a woman should be initiating sex sometimes. (Yes, disabled women have sex, oh my!)  

I tell my clients every third time (every few times, if numbers aren’t your thing and you’re not keeping track) to make him feel wanted too.

Women need to feel sexy and desired in order to engage in lustful acts :)

So it falls to the guy most of the time to get that party stared but we should pull the trigger as well, ladies.

My client is now learning to look before she leaps with future relationships and hopes that other women can learn from her errors.  

And now you know.