The Soul Mate
By Gina • Jun 19th, 2012
The Soul mate. The One. Can’t you just see him? Is he everything that you imagined? Your destiny? The missing piece of you?
In a world of 7 billion, where is this elusive man that we continually seek? And why do we keep bypassing him? While we’re out and about, shouldn’t he just roll or walk up to us and inform us of his arrival? I mean, what is he waiting for? We are aging by the day and he has to show up! Doesn’t he know that his one and only is available and waiting?
These are all questions that I have asked myself about the man that was specially made for me. No, not in the weird science print a mate kind of way but the one that was specifically designed for me by the creator sort of way.
This guy would know my wants and needs before I think them and I would just intuitively know his. He would fulfill my desires in a way that no other could ever dream of doing. We would fit together like hand in glove and would remain that way until…you guessed it, death do us part!
Sigh. How romantic.
It’s a very sweet thought but as much as I like sugar, I like facts as well. And the truth is ladies…
The special ONE does not exist. He hasn’t been born and he won’t be, unfortunately. This is a hard truth to digest but the sooner we face it, the sooner we can get on the path to finding and recognizing true love.
Think about your exes, past loves, and even the current guy, if you’re in a rocky relationship. At one point in time, didn’t you think this is it?!
“No need to look any further, my soul mate is here.”
We all have. And I’m here to tell you, Dream Girls. That he is just one of the many possibilities.
Think of all of the adjectives that describe you. Do you think there is just one man in the entire world that could connect or have any kind of chemistry with you? You still think so huh
I’m not very good at math at all but let’s visualize a map and take a look at the world…
There are 3.4 billion men in the world.
As reported by the World Bank’™s GenderStats, the world’™s male population is about 3.4 billion, which represents 50.6% of the total population. The countries with the highest male population ratios are Qatar, with 75.2%, and Kuwait, with 59.7%; contrarily, Estonia and Netherlands Antilles present the lowest male population ratio (46.1
The first thing we learn is there is no shortage of men in Qatar so the matchmakers need to add some of these guys to their database and the second stat that jumps out is that out of 7 billion people on this earth, 3.4 billion of them are men!
It’s true, some are children, some are married, some are gay, some are your exes, some you are not attracted to, and some won’t be into you at all. Again, I’m no mathematician but that still has to leave quite a few available for us single ladies!
It is not up to you to go on a hunt for your divine mate. It is not for you to bend, shape, or mold some guy into being your designated match from heaven.
The only thing you must do is have fun and enjoy meeting a plethora of men.
Remember, it only takes one. You may go on countless dates, have 600 men view your profile, and feel like you’re having endless phone conversations that lead to nowhere.
Noted Dating Coach and pretty smart guy Evan Marc Katz believes that it could take up to 20 different dates to meet the guy that you click with. No, not your soul mate but your Dream Partner.
When we focus so intently the absolute perfect man. We risk not seeing the guys that are actively pursuing us, wanting to hear about our dreams, and
Ladies, through dating and not just targeting the One, we learn about ourselves and when we do find one of the many, the joy will be in getting to know and growing with one another through the good and the bad times.
And now you know.
